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I conceal or minimize my successes.
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It makes me uncomfortable to have critical thoughts about my parents.
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I worry a great deal about my parents, or children, or siblings.
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I do not deserve other people's respect or admiration.
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It makes me very uncomfortable to receive better treatment than the people I am with.
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It is difficult to see my parents' flaws.
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I am afraid to fully enjoy my successes because I fear something bad is just around the corner.
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I often find myself doing what someone else wants me to do rather than doing what I would most enjoy.
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I deserve to be rejected by people.
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Other people's misfortunes do not affect me.
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I feel bad when I disagree with my parents' ideas or values, even if I keep it to myself.
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I worry about hurting other people's feelings if I turn down an invitation from somebody who is eager for me to accept.
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I am always expecting to be hurt.
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I sometimes feel I don't deserve the happiness I've achieved.
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I wish I could be more like my parents.
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I enjoy having other people envy me.
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It is very hard for me to cancel plans if I know the other person is looking forward to seeing me.
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If something bad happens to me I feel I must have deserved it.
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I feel responsible at social gatherings for people who are not able to enter into conversations with others.
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I feel that bad things may happen to my family if I do not stay in close contact with them.
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I worry a lot about the people I love even when they seem to be fine.
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If I make a mistake I get very depressed.
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I am able to retain my good humor even after seeing beggars or homeless people.
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It makes me anxious to be away from home for too long.
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I generally have trouble saying no to people, i.e. refusing other people's deadlines.
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If someone blames me for a mishap I assume they are right.
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I don't feel sorry for people who are less fortunate or successful than I am.
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I am uncomfortable talking about my achievements in social situations.
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I feel uncomfortable if I don't do things in the same way my parents did.
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I can't stand the idea of hurting someone else.
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If I fail at something, I condemn myself and want to harm myself.
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I feel uncomfortable if other people envy me for what I have.
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I prefer to do things the way my parents did them.
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I don't let my parents make me feel responsible for their unhappiness.
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It does not disturb me to see very poor people.
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Sometimes I feel I am such a bad person that I don't deserve to live.
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In social situations, I like to talk about my accomplishments.
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I am very reluctant to express an opinion that is different from the opinions held by family or friends.
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If my child, spouse or close friends have a problem, I am very tempted to try to solve it for them.
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Other people have better lives because they are more deserving than I am.
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It makes me very uncomfortable if I am more successful at something than are my friends or family members.
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I don't mind saying negative things about my parents.
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I am afraid to be alone.
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My parents needed to punish me severely as a child because I did so many bad things.
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I feel uncomfortable when I feel better than other people.
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I have no difficulty rejecting my family's values.
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My parent's problems are their own concern, not mine.
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I always assume I am at fault when something goes wrong.
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I am relieved when my spouse, my siblings, my parents, or my children are successful or confident, or when they achieve recognition or honors.
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I am glad I am not like my parents.
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I can't be happy when a friend or relative is suffering a disappointment.
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It is easy for me to say no to others.
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People would not mistreat me if I did not deserve it.
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It is often hard for me to enjoy things that I have been looking forward to.
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I would feel terrible if I did not love my parents.
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I don't worry about my parents or children.
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I feel like an unlovable person.
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I am afraid to get what I want because I feel there will be a price to pay that I did not anticipate.
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One's parents should always come first.
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If something goes wrong in the family I tend to ask myself how could I have prevented it.
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I feel I am being punished for bad things I did as a child.
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I tend to get somewhat depressed after important accomplishments.
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I feel guilty about not liking my parents.
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Sometimes I feel that I am a selfish and irresponsible person.
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When I get a little extra money I feel tempted to share it with a poor friend or relative.
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I feel there is something inherently bad about me.
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When a friend or relative suffers a misfortune I imagine how I would feel if I suffered a similar misfortune.