Attachment Theory Quiz

Test scores

Remember, we are not a single attachment style.

Your scores will provide you with your primary attachment style, along with the tendencies you share with other attachment styles.

Attachment styles, or the way in which different types of childhood experiences emerge in adulthood, come in four basic forms:

• Dismissive-Avoidant

As a Dismissive Avoidant, emotions can feel “like a burden” that you don't know how to carry. When things get emotional or intense, you might pull away-physically or emotionally-to protect yourself. Your need for space can create friction in relationships, especially when you desire deeper connection and affection but fear intimacy.

• Fearful-Avoidant (Disorganized Attachment)

The “hot and cold” push-pull of a Fearful Avoidant attachment style often feels like emotional whiplash, hence the term “Disorganized Attachment.” One minute, you're seeking closeness; the next, you're withdrawing in fear. This inner conflict makes relationships feel chaotic and confusing because you're torn between getting attached and your need for independence.

• Anxious Preoccupied

If you're anxiously attached, relationships can leave you feeling insecure, unsafe, or constantly on edge due to a deep-rooted fear of abandonment. You crave closeness, seek constant reassurance, and feel intense anxiety when a loved one pulls away. While this behavior can come off as “clingy,” it's a defense mechanism rooted in fear.

• Secure Attached

If you have a secure attachment, relationships likely feel comfortable, stable, and fulfilling. You thrive in relationships with other secure individuals who are looking for long-term, meaningful connections but struggle with insecurely attached people due to different beliefs and communication patterns.