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Compliments make me uncomfortable.
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It irritates me when someone gets ahead by being the star.
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I've missed out on opportunities because I was uncomfortable nominating myself (e.g., for promotion or leadership position).
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Sometimes I won't state my ideas because someone else's will be better.
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I often defer to other people's opinions.
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I worry about how other people think and feel about me.
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I'm not sure what I want or need in relationships.
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When people ask me my preferences, I'm often at a loss.
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I blame myself whenever things go badly in a relationship.
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I apologize a lot.
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I'm self-confident, but caring.
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I press on, even when tasks are challenging.
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I take more pride in my achievements when I have to work hard for them.
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I can recognize my limitations without feeling bad about myself.
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I'm happy to acknowledge my faults if it improves a situation.
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I believe both partners contribute to the success or failure of a relationship.
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I can rein myself in when people tell me I'm getting a big head.
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I like to dream big but not at the expense of my relationships.
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I'll take giving over receiving any day.
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Despite setbacks, I believe in myself.
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I find it easy to manipulate people.
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I insist on getting the respect that's due me.
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I expect a great deal from other people.
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I'll never be satisfied until I get all that I deserve.
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I secretly believe I'm better than most people.
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I get extremely angry when criticized.
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I get upset when people don't notice how I look in public.
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I'm apt to show off if I get the chance.
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I have a strong will to power.
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I'm great at a lot of things compared to most people.