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Yes
No
1
When you discuss your life issues with your parent, do they divert the discussion to talk about themselves?
2
When you discuss your feelings with your parent, do they try to top your feelings with their own?
3
Does your parent act jealous of you?
4
Does your parent lack empathy for your feelings?
5
Does your parent only support those things you do that reflect on them as a “good parent”?
6
Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your parent?
7
Have you consistently questioned whether your parent likes you or loves you?
8
Does your parent only do things for you when others can see?
9
When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce), does your parent react with how it will affect them, rather than how you feel?
10
Is your parent overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, coworkers)?
11
Does your parent deny their own feelings?
12
Does your parent blame things on you or others rather than take responsibility for their own feelings or actions?
13
Is your parent hurt easily and then do they carry a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?
14
Do you feel that you were a slave to your parent?
15
Do you feel responsible for your parent's mental or physical ailments?
16
Did you have to take care of your parent's mental or physical needs as a child?
17
Do you feel unaccepted by your parent?
18
Do you feel your parent was critical of you?
19
Do you feel helpless in the presence of your parent?
20
Are you shamed often by your parent?
21
Do you feel your parent does not know the real you?
22
Does your parent act as if the world should revolve around them?
23
Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your parent?
24
Does your parent appear phony to you?
25
Does your parent want to control your choices?
26
Does your parent swing from egotistical to a depressed mood?
27
Did you feel you had to take care of your parent's emotional needs as a child?
28
Do you feel manipulated in the presence of your parent?
29
Do you feel valued by your parent for what you do rather than who you are?
30
Is your parent controlling, and do they act like a victim or martyr?
31
Does your parent make you act different from how you really feel?
32
Does your parent compete with you?
33
Does your parent always have to have things their way?