Form: Do You Have the Disease to Please?

It's extremely important to me to be liked by nearly everyone in my life.

I believe that nothing good can come from conflict.

My needs should always take a backseat to the needs of the people I love.

I expect myself to rise above conflict and confrontation.

I often do too much for other people or even let myself be used so that I won't be rejected for other reasons.

I have always needed the approval of other people.

It's much easier for me to acknowledge negative feelings about myself than to express negative feelings toward others.

I believe that if I make other people need me because of all the things I do for them, I won't be left alone.

I'm hooked on doing things for others and pleasing them.

I go to great lengths to avoid conflict or confrontation with my family, friends, or coworkers.

I'm likely to do all the things I can to make others happy before I do anything just for myself.

I almost never stand up to others in order to protect myself because I am too afraid of getting an angry response or provoking a confrontation.

If I stopped putting others' needs ahead of my own, I would become a selfish person and people would no longer like me.

Having to face a confrontation or conflict with anybody makes me feel so anxious that I almost get physically sick.

It is very difficult for me to express criticism even if it is constructive because I don't want to make anyone angry with me.

I must always please others even at the expense of my own feelings.

I have to give of myself all the time in order to be worthy of love.

I believe that nice people get the approval, affection, and friendship of others.

I must never let other people down by failing to do everything they expect of me even when I know that the demands are excessive or unreasonable.

Sometimes I feel like I'm trying to “buy” the love and friendship of others by doing so many nice things to please them.

It makes me very anxious and uncomfortable to say or do anything that might make another person angry with me.

I rarely delegate tasks to others.

I feel guilty when I say “no” to requests or needs of others.

I would think that I am a bad person if I didn't give of myself all the time to those around me.