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I often feel that I just do not know how to make HER happy.
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I sometimes feel confused and unclear about what SHE really wants.
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It mostly feels to me that HER needs dominate our relationship.
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I often wind up feeling more to blame for problems in my relationship with HER than she does.
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I feel that SHE does not understand my needs in this relationship.
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I sometimes feel resentful and angry toward HER.
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I rarely express my negative feelings to HER.
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I sometimes feel that SHE has more control over my feelings and behavior than I do.
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I sometimes feel that SHE is using or exploiting my giving nature.
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More and more, I feel dissatisfied and frustrated with the way SHE treats me.
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I believe that I am much better at meeting HER needs than the other way around.
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I often feel that I have to choose my words very carefully around HER.
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I say and do things to try to avoid angering or upsetting HER.
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I sometimes feel that SHE takes me for granted.
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Instead of expressing my anger directly toward HER, I often direct my anger inward and wind up feeling bad about myself, sometimes even depressed.
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When I think about my relationship with HER, I realize that I do not feel as good about myself as I once did.
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I'm not sure that SHE really has my best interests at heart.
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I often feel that I need HER far more than she needs me.
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I sometimes feel that I am trapped in my relationship with HER with no clear way out.
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I am better off checking first with HER about a decision or action than relying on my own judgment and risk making a big mistake.
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I often feel that SHE has more control over my feelings and behavior than I have over her feelings and behavior.
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I worry frequently about upsetting, disappointing, or letting HER down.
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I often feel that something bad will happen if I do not do what SHE wants.
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No matter how much I do for HER, she has a way of making me feel that I have not done enough.
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I have sometimes thought that SHE intimidates me with her anger, moods, or emotionality.
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I often feel in my relationship with HER that I do not have much freedom to really be myself or to do what I really want.
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SHE has a very strong influence over how I feel, think, and/or act.
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I do not feel that I can do much to change HER.
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Even when I do something that really pleases HER or makes her happy, the good feelings never seem to last very long.
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I work much harder at this relationship than SHE seems to.