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When people really care for someone, they often feel worse about themselves.
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When someone gets too emotionally close to another person, he/she often feels lost.
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When people really get angry at someone, they often feel worthless.
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It is when people start getting emotionally close to someone that they are most likely to get hurt.
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People need to maintain control over others to keep from being harmed.
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I find that people seem to change whenever I get to know them.
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It is easy for me to see both good and bad qualities that I have at the same time.
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I find that people either really like me or they hate me.
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I find that others often treat me as if I am just there to meet their every wish.
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I find that I really vacillate between really liking myself and really disliking myself.
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When I am by myself, I feel that something is missing.
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I need other people around me to not feel empty.
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I sometimes feel that part of me is lost whenever I agree with someone else.
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Like others, whenever I see someone I really respect and to whom I look up, I often feel worse about myself.
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I find it easy to see myself as a distinct individual.
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Whenever I realize how different I am from my parents I feel very uneasy.
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In my experience, I almost always consult my mother before making an important decision.
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I find it relatively easy to make and keep commitments to other people.
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I find that when I get emotionally close to someone, I occasionally feel like hurting myself.
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I find that either I really like someone or I can't stand them.
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I often have dreams about falling that make me feel anxious.
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I find it difficult to form mental pictures of people significant to me.
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I have on more than one occasion seemed to wake up and find myself in a relationship with someone, and not be sure of how or why I am in the relationship.
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I must admit that when I feel lonely, I often feel like getting intoxicated.
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Whenever I am angry with someone, I feel worthless.
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If I were to tell my deepest thoughts, I would feel empty.
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In my experience, people always seem to hate me.
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Whenever I realize how similar I am to my parents, I feel very uneasy.
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Often, when I am in a close relationship, I find that my sense of who I am gets lost.
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I find it difficult for me to see others as having both good and bad qualities at the same time.
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I find that the only way I can be me is to be different from other people.
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I find that when I get emotionally too close to someone, I sometimes feel that I have lost part of who I am.
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Whenever I am away from family, I feel very uneasy.
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Getting physical affection itself seems more important to me that who gives it to me.
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I find it difficult to really know another person well.
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I find that it is important for me to have my mother's approval before making a decision.
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I must admit that whenever I see someone else's faults, I feel better.
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I am tempted to try to control other people in order to keep them close tome.
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I must admit that whenever I get emotionally close to someone, I sometimes want to hurt them.