Form: Sexual Decision-Making Inventory, SDMI

The way she looked at me and smiled at me made me feel as if I had known her before in some special way.

I thought she would be a good lover and it was what I wanted then.

I liked her, was sexually attracted to her, and was afraid she would not like it if we did not have sex.

She appeared to be unattainable and it was a real challenge to see if I could convince her to have sex with me.

I was not sure I wanted a relationship with this woman, so before we made love I let her know that I could not promise her anything.

It seemed as if some mystical force had brought us together.

I had been thinking about making love with her because I admired her, but I had to be sure first that she wanted a long lasting and sexually intimate relationship with me.

I had been wanting to make it with this woman for some time and this was my chance to have her.

I felt that if other people knew I was seeing this woman, they would look up to me.

I felt it was fate that I had met this woman at this particular time.

I was interested in her as a person, including what she felt and what she thought, and I believed that making love would enable us to have an even more intimate relationship.

I liked her and was sexually attracted to her and that was enough for me.

She was so good looking (or had such a great body) that I knew I would feel pleased with myself if I could have sex with her.

She thought she was superior and I enjoyed the conquest.

I felt we could be as “one.”

My overall feeling about her was that I valued her, even though I could see her flaws and limitation; nevertheless I could see us having a continued relationship that would be mutually satisfying.

We had already shared so much of our feelings and thoughts and were ready to deepen our commitment to each other by making love.

I was uncertain, but she convinced me it would be worth it.

I was in a bad mood and wanted to release my frustrations.

Just by looking into her eyes, I knew what she wanted and it was what I wanted.

I was afraid she would be angry with me if we did not have sex.

I wanted her to know that I was a great lover.

What I needed at that time was for someone to hold me.

I had too much to drink (or was really out of it), and did not really think about what I was doing.

I believed I could love this woman, and therefore felt that making love would deepen our relationship.

I wanted to see her and hoped that if we had sex she would go out with me again.

I was feeling alone then and wanted human contact with someone.

I felt if we did not have sex, she would not want to see me again.

I was feeling bad and did not really care what I did or what happened to me.

I like to have sex with as many women as I can.

I really wanted to have sex then and persuaded her to go along with it.

I thought enough of her that I only felt comfortable making love once I knew that she would understand that I was not ready for a relationship with her.

I did not want my partner to feel that I had taken advantage of her so I let her know first that I was uncertain about having a relationship with her.

A part of me wanted to become sexually involved and a part of me did not, but because she felt all right about my uncertainty I decided it could be pleasurable for us both.

She and I discussed making love beforehand and decided we both wanted the emotional and physical closeness and caring that making love would bring to our relationship.

I did not think she would be interested in me at all; so I was surprised when she wanted to have sex and I just went along with her.

I thought I could get what I needed from her.

There were certain reasons that made me feel I should not become sexually involved with her at that time; however, I ended up feeling that making love was something we could both enjoy.

I enjoyed the depth, range, and complexity of my experiences with her, and even though we disagreed at times, I feel we had a potential for a sustaining relationship.

Although we were attracted to each other, I made certain she knew ahead of time that I did not want a commitment. Her agreement with this helped me to decide that it would be all right to make love.

I had thought so much about her sexual attributes that I knew I would experience a sense of pride if I could have sex with her.

I had been having a lot of problems then and I hoped that by having sex I could forget them for awhile.

I felt as if I had known her all my life.

Whenever I thought about this person or recalled memories of us together, my thoughts were relatively reassuring, and helped me to feel that I could have a relationship with her that would be mutually satisfying to us both.

I wasn't really all that interested in her, but I could sense that she was probably good in bed.

I felt that it was probably not a good idea for us to have a sexual relationship, but she wanted to have sex even if it was only to share the moment together.

There was something about her that reminded me of myself and I felt drawn to her.