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I look for solutions by working together with others.
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I can feel terribly guilty, even about trivial matters.
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My interests are constantly changing.
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I feel free to give my own opinion, even when others don't agree with my point of view.
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When I'm under pressure, my head becomes a mess.
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The purpose of my life is to accomplish something great or special.
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I try to contribute to charity or a common ideal.
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In order to make choices in daily life, I need the support of others.
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I don't allow myself any pleasure because I don't deserve it.
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I find it easy to empathise with the feelings of others.
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Sometimes I seem to hear voices in my head.
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I don't care whether my behaviour makes things difficult for someone else.
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I have clear goals in mind, and I work them out systematically.
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I put criticism to one side.
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One moment I can really love someone, the next moment I hate that person. These feelings can suddenly switch.
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I often daydream that I'm very successful, good-looking or beloved.
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I assist others if they need help.
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I generally let others take decisions for me.
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Both my partner and I are happy with our intimate sexual relationship. (If you have no partner now, this question also applies to a recent committed relationship.)
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I find it difficult to be alone, even just for a few days.
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I need excitement or distraction otherwise I feel bored or empty.
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I can only relax if I have everything under control.
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I am able to maintain friendships in which we have personal conversations.
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If I need something, I don't mind using someone to achieve it.
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Usually I am not able to resist my needs.
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I can admit my mistakes without feeling bad about myself.
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Typical for me is that my feelings for other people can change very fast and dramatically.
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In contact with others, I can be myself.
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I've done bad things, it just happens, you can't do anything about it.
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If there are any problems, I try not to think about them.
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I can understand that people from different cultures have diverse opinions.
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I usually pretend to be more capable than I am.
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If I want something, then it has to happen.
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I completed my education satisfactorily.
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When things go wrong in my life, it is mostly other people's fault.
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If you don't watch out for a moment, you get nailed.
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When I'm angry, I can't control myself.
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Either you're in charge or you will get bossed around.
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I am open to thoughts or feelings that spontaneously occur in me.
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Even though it was painful, I've been able to deal with sadness or loss.
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In order to feel good all the attention must be focused on me.
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If someone tells me what to do, I just tend not to do it.
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I'm able to take changing circumstances into account in good time.
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As soon as I notice any form of injustice, I revolt.
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I always have a great need for the warmth or involvement from others.
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I enjoy successes that are achieved by collaboration.
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I enjoy flirting; it makes me feel attractive as a man or woman.
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My ideas about what I want often change.
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When things turn out wrong, I quickly get discouraged.
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Afterwards I often don't know why I did something.
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Advice that other people give, I've usually already considered myself.
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You often have to use people to get ahead in life.
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I'm very jealous when it comes to my boyfriend/girlfriend.
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I feel gratified when I'm able to act on the basis of my personal convictions about life.
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My study/work fits me well.
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Rules are rules, I won't deviate from them.
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If I lose contact with someone who's important to me, I get completely confused.
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Sometimes I am able to laugh at myself afterwards.
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I don't need to have a special bond with anyone, like a friend or partner.
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I often compare myself with others and feel that they are much more successful than me.
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Behaving sincerely is not always easy, but it's very important to me.
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I feel uncertain about my decisions, unless they are verified by others.
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I often don't feel very much in situations in which others would have had strong emotions.
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If I can't find a solution myself, I consult others.
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I often do things impulsively.
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While working with others, of course things are always done my way.
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I've done my work well for several years. (Also applies to household and voluntary work).
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If rules stand in my way, I don't follow them.
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The fact that I feel so bad is merely due to the circumstances.
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If I'm not the best, I feel like a failure.
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I feel it's important to do something for others or for general interest.
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I'm constantly concerned with what others expect of me.
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I find it difficult to tell who I am or what suits me.
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I tend to avoid problems.
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I can really enjoy doing something together with other people.
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I share matters that emotionally affect me with my partner or a good friend.
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I find it difficult to make decisions because I'm always afraid that I have missed something.
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You can't really trust anyone.
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I only get involved with people if it has any benefit for me.
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I often have the feeling that everything is unreal.
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When I do something, it has to be big, innovative or extraordinary, otherwise it's not worth it.
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Despite my limitations, I can respect myself the way I am.
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I realize that one day the time will come when it is better that someone else does my job.
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I am well capable of working together with others.
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I fall in love easily, but once the relationship is established, the spark fades.
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I find it hard to experience myself as a valuable person.
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I have no core, I don't find anything to hold on to within myself.
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I understand that behaviour that we consider normal may be seen as inappropriate in another culture.
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I just wait and hope that problems will fade.
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Personal contact makes me anxious; I no longer know what's mine or what belongs to someone else.
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I feel a responsibility for society as a whole, even though I can't help solve all the problems.
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In relationships, I often take on a submissive position.
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Problems often arise in my relationships with others because I'm so capricious and keep changing my plans.
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If I have to perform in public, I'm afraid that suddenly I no longer know what to do.
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I realize that my life will end, but that doesn't make it any less valuable.
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I'm interested in my own matters, other things don't matter.
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For me, things are either all good or all bad.
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People who don't agree with me just don't understand it.
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Whenever necessary I will find a proper way to stand up for myself.
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When working together, I try to take other people's wishes and desires into account.
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It's never good enough for me. I always want to do even better.
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I only feel worthy when doing my work/tasks well.
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If you have to be unfair to get what you want, so be it.
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In relationships, I let others boss over me.
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In everything I do I also take into account other people's interests.
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I feel it's valuable to share experiences and feelings with friends.
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I always worry whether I suffice to make other people feel comfortable.
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The way in which I live (single or cohabiting) suits me.