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If I ask for help, my partner will ignore me.
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My partner does not care about my problems.
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If I show myself as vulnerable, my partner will hurt me.
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If I get close to my partner, they will humiliate me.
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When I realize I am emotionally attached to my partner, I feel annoyed with them.
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I feel the need to get closer to my partner, then immediately after I feel the need to get away from them.
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I feel the need to get closer to my partner, but also to get away from them at the same time.
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I want intimate relationships, but being emotionally close to somebody frightens me.
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When my partner rejects me, I lose my ability to think clearly.
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When my partner rejects me, I can no longer reason.
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When my partner rejects me, my emotions go out of control.
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When my partner rejects me, I feel “numb” or emotionless.
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When my partner rejects me, I lose control over my actions.
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When my partner rejects me, the environment around me seems distant or unreal.
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When my partner rejects me, parts of my body feel as if they did not belong to me.
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When my partner rejects me, I do not recognize my body, as if it belonged to another person.
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As soon as my partner gets to know me fully, they will realize that there is something awful inside me.
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If I express all my needs, I will become a burden to my partner.
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If I express all my needs, I will scare my partner.
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If I express all my needs, I will hurt my partner.
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I hide my weaknesses from my partner.
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I strive not to appear helpless in front of my partner.
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I do everything I can so that my partner will never see me as weak.
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I do everything I can to never ask my partner for help.
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If my partner does not take care of me as they should, I will retaliate.
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If my partner betrays my trust, I will make them pay for it.
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If my partner betrays my trust, I will destroy them.
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If my partner hurts me, I will hurt them even more.