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I have had sex in the past because…
I was frustrated and needed relief.
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I wanted to release anxiety/stress.
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I wanted to release tension.
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I was bored.
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It seemed like good exercise.
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I thought it would relax me.
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I'm addicted to sex.
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It would allow me to “get sex out of my system” so that I could focus on other things.
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I am a sex addict.
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I thought it would make me feel healthy.
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I hadn't had sex for a while.
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I wanted to satisfy a compulsion.
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It feels good.
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I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
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I was “horny.”
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It's fun.
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I wanted the pure pleasure.
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I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
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It's exciting, adventurous.
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I was “in the heat of the moment.”
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The person had an attractive face.
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The person had a desirable body.
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The person had beautiful eyes.
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The person smelled nice.
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The person's physical appearance turned me on.
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I saw the person naked and could not resist.
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The person was a good dancer.
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The person was too physically attractive to resist.
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The person wore revealing clothes.
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The person was too “hot” (sexy) to resist.
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I was curious about sex.
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I was curious about my sexual abilities.
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I wanted the experience.
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I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
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I wanted to see what all the fuss is about.
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I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with another person.
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I wanted the adventure/excitement.
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I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
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I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
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I wanted to lose my inhibitions.
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I wanted to get the most out of life.
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I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
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The opportunity presented itself.
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I wanted to act out a fantasy.
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I wanted to see whether sex with a different partner would feel different or better.
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I wanted to get a raise.
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I wanted to punish myself.
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I wanted to get a job.
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I wanted to hurt/humiliate the person.
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I wanted to get a promotion.
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I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease (e.g., herpes, AIDS).
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Someone offered me money to do it.
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I wanted to feel closer to God.
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I wanted to make money.
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I wanted to have a child.
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I wanted to reproduce.
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It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
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The person offered me drugs for doing it.
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I wanted to end the relationship.
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I wanted to be used or degraded.
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I wanted to be popular.
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I wanted to enhance my reputation.
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I wanted to have more sex than my friends.
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I was competing with someone else to “get the person.”
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It would damage my reputation if I said “no.”
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The person was famous and I wanted to be able to say I had sex with him/her.
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I thought it would boost my social status.
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My friends pressured me into it.
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It was a favor to someone.
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Someone dared me.
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I wanted to impress friends.
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I wanted to get back at my partner for having cheated on me.
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I was mad at my partner so I had sex with someone else.
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I wanted to get even with someone.
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I wanted to even the score with a cheating partner.
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I wanted to make someone else jealous.
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I wanted to break up rival's relationship by having sex with his/her partner.
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I was on the “rebound” from another relationship.
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I wanted to make someone else jealous.
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I wanted to breakup another's relationship.
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I wanted to hurt an enemy.
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I wanted to get out of doing something.
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I wanted to burn calories.
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I wanted to keep warm.
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The person had taken me out for an expensive dinner.
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I wanted to get rid of a headache.
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I wanted to change the topic of conversation.
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I thought it would help me to fall asleep.
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I wanted to become more focused on work – sexual thoughts are distracting.
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I wanted to get a favor from someone.
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I wanted to defy my parents.
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I wanted to feel connected to the person.
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I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
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I wanted to communicate at a “deeper” level.
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I wanted to express my love for the person.
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I wanted to show my affection to the person.
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I wanted to intensify my relationship.
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I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
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I wanted to become one with another person.
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It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
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I realized I was in love.
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It seemed like the natural next step in the relationship.
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I wanted to get a partner to express love.
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I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself.
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I wanted to welcome someone home.
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I wanted to say “I'm sorry.”
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I wanted to say “thank you.”
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I wanted to say “goodbye.”
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I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
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I wanted to say “I've missed you.”
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I wanted to lift my partner's spirits.
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I wanted to feel powerful.
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I wanted to make myself feel better about myself.
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I wanted to boost my self-esteem.
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I wanted to feel attractive.
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I wanted my partner to notice me.
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I wanted the attention.
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I wanted to “gain control” of the person.
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I wanted to manipulate him/her into doing something for me.
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I felt insecure.
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I didn't know how to say “no.”
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I was pressured into doing it.
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I felt obligated to.
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I was verbally coerced into it.
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I felt like it was my duty.
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I wanted him/her to stop bugging me about sex.
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My partner kept insisting.
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I felt like I owed it to the person.
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I was physically forced to.
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It was expected of me.
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I felt guilty.
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I didn't want to disappoint the person.
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I wanted to be nice.
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I wanted to keep my partner from straying.
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I wanted to get my partner to stay with me.
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I wanted to decrease my partner's desire to have sex with someone else.
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I wanted to prevent a breakup.
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I was afraid my partner would have an affair if I didn't have sex with him/her.
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I wanted to ensure the relationship was “committed.”
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I didn't want to “lose” the person.
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I wanted the person to love me.
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I thought it would help “trap” a new partner.