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When I am feeling upset, my partner...
Thinks about what things I can do to change my situation.
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Seems to think I should not feel how I'm feeling.
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Experiences the same emotions I am experiencing.
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Puts himself or herself in my shoes.
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Tells me that I am over-reacting.
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Helps me figure out steps I can take to solve the problem.
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Reminds me about positive things in my life or around me.
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Feels the same things I feel in the moment.
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Encourages me to express what I'm feeling.
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Communicates to me that my feelings do not make sense.
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Helps me think differently about the things that led to how I'm feeling.
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Lets me know that I need to deal with how I'm feeling by myself.
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Tries to make me feel better.
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Hugs, kisses, or touches me in a way that makes me feel less upset.
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Communicates to me that the problems I'm facing are minor.
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Does not try to encourage me that things will look up soon.
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Is able to see things from my perspective.
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Does not try to comfort me.
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Distracts me with something fun or interesting.
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Does not help me change the way I think about the situation.
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Tries to help me figure out all the causes, consequences, and meaning of how I'm feeling.
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Does something to cheer me up.
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Says or does things to help make my emotions less intense.
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Focuses only on the negative aspects of the current situation.
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Stays away from me for a little while.
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Does not do things to calm or comfort me.
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Encourages me to talk about why I'm feeling upset.
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Does not focus much on how to fix the problems that are bothering me.
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Implies that whatever's bothering me is really not such a big deal.
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Encourages me to step back and think about different or more positive ways to interpret the situation.
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Does not help me analyze in depth the meaning of whatever is going wrong.
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Tries to cheer me up by reminding me of my strengths.