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Across many different situations, I manage to behave in a manner appropriate to that situation.
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All I can really understand about other people are their weaknesses.
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Almost no close relationship turns out well in the end.
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Although I might have different feelings at different times, I can handle all of them pretty well.
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Although I try, I can't seem to keep any successful, lasting relationships.
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Although I value close relationships, sometimes strong emotions get in the way.
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Events in my life can really change whether or not I feel good about myself.
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Feedback from others plays a big role in determining what is important to me.
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Getting close to others has little appeal to me.
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Getting close to others just leaves me vulnerable and isn't really worth the risk.
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I can appreciate the viewpoint of other people even when I disagree with them.
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I can only get close to somebody who understands me very well.
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I can only get close to someone who can acknowledge and address my needs.
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I can step back and objectively evaluate the way that I'm feeling at any given time.
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I can't always tell the difference between what is my opinion, and what is the way other people want me to think.
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I can't even imagine living a life that I would find satisfying.
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I can't stand it when there are sharp differences of opinion.
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I don't have a clue about why other people do what they do.
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I don't have many positive interactions with other people.
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I don't pay much attention to, or care very much about, the effect I have on other people.
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I don't understand what motivates other people at all.
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I don't waste time thinking about my experiences, feelings, and actions.
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I have a strong need for others to approve of me.
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I have difficult setting and completing goals.
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I have little understanding of how I feel or what I do.
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I have many satisfying relationships, both personally and on the job.
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I have relationships, but not many that I consider to be very close.
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I have some difficulty setting goals.
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I have trouble deciding between different goals.
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I mainly act in the moment, rather than focusing on long term goals.
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I mainly pay attention to others to the extent that they are likely to impact me in some way.
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I mainly pay attention to people based upon what they might do to me, or for me.
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I never seem to have much hope that good things will happen to me.
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I set personal standards for myself that are very difficult to satisfy.
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I tend to feel either really good or really bad about myself.
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I tend to let others set my goals for me, rather than come up with them on my own.
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I try hard to be flexible and cooperative when dealing with others.
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I typically understand other peoples' feelings better than they do.
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I work on my close relationships, because they are important to me.
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I'm confident about the difference between my values and those that others might want me to have.
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I'm no good at stepping back and looking objectively at my life.
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I'm not sure exactly what standards I've set for myself.
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I'm only interested in relationships that can provide me with some comfort.
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I'm very aware of the impact I'm having on other people.
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In a close relationship, it's as if I can't live without the other person.
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In close relationships I tend to be torn between being afraid and being “clingy.”
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In many situations I feel quite differently than others seem to expect me to feel.
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In very trying times, I sometimes lose sight of what is important to me.
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Interacting with other people usually leaves me feeling confused.
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It seems as if most other people have their life together more than I.
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I've got goals that are reasonable given my abilities.
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I've had lasting relationships, but they haven't always been very satisfying.
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Life is a dangerous place without a lot of meaning to it.
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Many people around me have very destructive motives.
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Most things that I do are a reaction to what others do.
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My emotions rapidly shift around.
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My life is basically controlled by the actions of others.
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My motives are mainly imposed upon me, rather than being a personal choice.
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My personal standards change quite a bit depending upon circumstances.
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Other people often expect too much from me.
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People think I am pretty good at reading the feelings and motives of others in most situations.
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People think I'm a “hater,” but it's often more related to them than to me.
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Relationships are mainly a source of pain and suffering.
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Sometimes all I care about are my goals.
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Sometimes I am too harsh on myself.
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Sometimes I feel that certain other people are just like me; other times I believe they are nothing like me at all.
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Sometimes I'm not very cooperative because other people don't live up to my standards.
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Sometimes it is easy for me to overlook the impact that I'm having on others.
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The key to a successful relationship is whether I am getting my needs met.
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The standards that I set for myself often seem to be too demanding, or not demanding enough.
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The way that others perceive me is totally different from the way that I really am.
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There are parts of my personality that just don't fit together very well.
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When dealing with people, I mainly pay attention to how they are likely to affect me.
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When feelings get too strong, I try to shut myself off from them.
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When I disagree with others, there often isn't much use in trying to see things from their perspective.
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When I feel that I've done something well, I'm almost always right.
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When I'm not doing well at something, I might get very angry or feel ashamed about my abilities.
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When I'm successful I tend to feel like an imposter.
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When others disapprove of me, it's difficult to keep my emotions under control.
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When thinking about myself, I can get pretty narrow in my focus.