Form: Marital Coping Inventory, MCI

Marital Coping Inventory, MCI
male form | female form
1. Did you think of a problem?
Yes
2. How serious do you consider this problem to be?
Not serious
Slightly serious
Moderately
Quite
Extremely
3.

When I am dealing with this problem, I...

sit down and talk things out with my partner.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
4. yell or shout at my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
5. buy presents for my partner or do special favors for him.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
6. blame myself.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
7. put more energy into my work.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
8. feel sorry for myself.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
9. tell my partner that he is childish, self-centered, domineering or moody.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
10. try not to think about the problem.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
11. have difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
12. remind my partner of things he has said or done in the past that made me unhappy.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
13. do more things with my partner that both of us find enjoyable.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
14. spend more time on my hobbies.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
15. do more things with my partner that he enjoys.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
16. demand that my partner do things differently.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
17. try to initiate discussion with my partner.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
18. sleep more than usual or have trouble getting out of bed in the morning.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
19. am sarcastic to my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
20. experience more health problems than usual.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
21. avoid initiating physical contact with my partner.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
22. spend more time with friends.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
23. tell myself the difficulties are not important.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
24. refuse to have sex with my partner.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
25. feel more tired than usual.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
26. wait for time to remedy the problem.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
27. argue more than usual with people.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
28. am more physically affectionate than usual toward my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
29. nag.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
30. try to bring new people into my life.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
31. feel depressed and blue.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
32. take on new time-consuming responsibilities at work or in the community.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
33. deny that anything is wrong or change the subject if my partner brings up the problem.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
34. hit or bash things.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
35. feel anxious, tense and unsettled.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
36. develop new time-consuming hobbies or interests (e.g., an evening course).
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
37. remind myself of good times my partner and I have had in the past.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
38. cry when I am by myself.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
39. am irritable around my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
40. tell myself that I will deal with the problem in the future but that now isn't a good time.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
41. remind my partner of good times we have had in the past.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
42. feel hopeless about the situation.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
43. put down my partner in front of others.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
44. keep busy when I am at home with my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
45. make more effort to look attractive when I am with my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
46. criticize my partner for things other than what is really bothering me.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
47. keep my hurt feelings to myself.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
48. pay more attention to my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
49. feel that I am a failure.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
50. try to figure out what is causing the problems.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
51. tell my partner how much I love and care about him.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
52. tell my partner that the problem is all his fault.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
53. get more exercise, or put more energy into physical activities.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
54. try to make my partner see a funny side to the situation.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
55. go over and over the problem in my mind without seeming to get anywhere.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
56. pick fights with my partner over small issues.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
57. set aside a time with my partner so that we can discuss the problem.
Never
Rarely
Sometimes
Often
Usually
58. try to see a funny side to the situation.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
59. worry about my health.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
60. socialize more than usual without my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
61. give my partner ultimatums such as insisting that things be done my way or I will...
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
62. find I can't concentrate on my work or other interests.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
63. try to solve the problem myself without talking about it with my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
64. decide to get even with my partner.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
65. feel guilty.
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never
66. suggest to my partner that we «make up».
Usually
Often
Sometimes
Rarely
Never