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I am socially inept and socially undesirable in work or social situations.
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Other people are potentially critical, indifferent, demeaning, or rejecting.
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I cannot tolerate unpleasant feelings.
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If people get close to me, they will discover the real me and reject me.
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Being exposed as inferior or inadequate will be intolerable.
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I should avoid unpleasant situations at all cost.
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If I feel or think something unpleasant, I should try to wipe it out or distract myself (for example, think of something else, have a drink, take a drug, or watch television).
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I should avoid situations in which I attract attention, or be as inconspicuous as possible.
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Unpleasant feelings will escalate and get out of control.
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If others criticize me, they must be right.
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It is better not to do anything than to try something that might fail.
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If I don't think about a problem, I don't have to do anything about it.
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Any signs of tension in a relationship indicate the relationship has gone bad; therefore, I should cut it off.
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If I ignore a problem, it will go away.
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I am needy and weak.
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I need somebody around available at all times to help me to carry out what I need to do or in case something bad happens.
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My helper can be nurturant, supportive, and confident if he or she wants to be.
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I am helpless when I'm left on my own.
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I am basically alone unless I can attach myself to a stronger person.
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The worst possible thing would be to be abandoned.
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If I am not loved, I will always be unhappy.
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I must do nothing to offend my supporter or helper.
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I must be subservient in order to maintain his or her good will.
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I must maintain access to him or her at all times.
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I should cultivate as intimate a relationship as possible.
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I can't make decisions on my own.
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I can't cope as other people can.
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I need others to help me make decisions or tell me what to do.
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I am self-sufficient, but I do need others to help me reach my goals.
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The only way I can preserve my self-respect is by asserting myself indirectly; for example, by not carrying out instructions exactly.
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I like to be attached to people but I am unwilling to pay the price of being dominated.
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Authority figures tend to be intrusive, demanding, interfering, and controlling.
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I have to resist the domination of authorities but at the same time maintain their approval and acceptance.
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Being controlled or dominated by others is intolerable.
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I have to do things my own way.
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Making deadlines, complying with demands, and conforming are direct blows to my pride and self-sufficiency.
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If I follow the rules the way people expect, it will inhibit my freedom of action.
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It is best not to express my anger directly but to show my displeasure by not conforming.
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I know what's best for me and other people shouldn't tell me what to do.
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Rules are arbitrary and stifle me.
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Other people are often too demanding.
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If I regard people as too bossy, I have a right to disregard their demands.
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I am fully responsible for myself and others.
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I have to depend on myself to see that things get done.
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Others tend to be too casual, often irresponsible, self-indulgent, or incompetent.
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It is important to do a perfect job on everything.
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I need order, systems, and rules in order to get the job done properly.
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If I don't have systems, everything will fall apart.
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Any flaw or defect of performance may lead to a catastrophe.
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It is necessary to stick to the highest standards at all times, or things will fall apart.
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I need to be in complete control of my emotions.
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People should do things my way.
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If I don't perform at the highest level, I will fail.
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Flaws, defects, or mistakes are intolerable.
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Details are extremely important.
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My way of doing things is generally the best way.
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I have to look out for myself.
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Force or cunning is the best way to get things done.
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We live in a jungle and the strong person is the one who survives.
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People will get at me if I don't get them first.
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It is not important to keep promises or honor debts.
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Lying and cheating are OK as long as you don't get caught.
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I have been unfairly treated and am entitled to get my fair share by whatever means I can.
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Other people are weak and deserve to be taken.
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If I don't push other people, I will get pushed around.
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I should do whatever I can get away with.
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What others think of me doesn't really matter.
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If I want something, I should do whatever is necessary to get it.
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I can get away with things so I don't need to worry about bad consequences.
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If people can't take care of themselves, that's their problem
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I am a very special person.
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Since I am so superior, I am entitled to special treatment and privileges.
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I don't have to be bound by the rules that apply to other people.
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It is very important to get recognition, praise, and admiration.
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If others don't respect my status, they should be punished.
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Other people should satisfy my needs.
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Other people should recognize how special I am.
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It's intolerable if I'm not accorded my due respect or don't get what I'm entitled to.
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Other people don't deserve the admiration or riches they get.
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People have no right to criticize me.
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No one's needs should interfere with my own.
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Since I am so talented, people should go out of their way to promote my career.
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Only people as brilliant as I am understand me.
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I have every reason to expect grand things.
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I am an interesting, exciting person.
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In order to be happy, I need other people to pay attention to me.
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Unless I entertain or impress people, I am nothing.
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If I don't keep others engaged with me, they won't like me.
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The way to get what I want is to dazzle or amuse people.
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If people don't respond very positively to me, they are rotten.
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It is awful if people ignore me.
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I should be the center of attention.
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I don't have to bother to think things through I can go by my gut feeling.
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If I entertain people, they will not notice my weaknesses.
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I cannot tolerate boredom.
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If I feel like doing something, I should go ahead and do it.
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People will pay attention only if I act in extreme ways.
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Feelings and intuition are much more important than rational thinking and planning.
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It doesn't matter what other people think of me.
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It is important for me to be free and independent of others.
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I enjoy doing things more by myself than with other people.
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In many situations, I am better off to be left alone.
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I am not influenced by others in what I decide to do.
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Intimate relations with other people are not important to me.
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I set my own standards and goals for myself.
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My privacy is much more important to me than closeness to people.
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What other people think doesn't matter to me.
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I can manage things on my own without anybody's help.
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It's better to be alone than to feel stuck with other people.
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I shouldn't confide in others.
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I can use other people for my own purposes as long as I don't get involved.
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Relationships are messy and interfere with freedom.
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I cannot trust other people.
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Other people have hidden motives.
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Others will try to use me or manipulate me if I don't watch out.
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I have to be on guard at all times.
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It isn't safe to confide in other people.
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If people act friendly, they may be trying to use or exploit me.
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People will take advantage of me if I give them the chance.
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For the most part, other people are unfriendly.
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Other people will deliberately try to demean me.
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Oftentimes people deliberately want to annoy me.
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I will be in serious trouble if I let other people think they can get away with mistreating me.
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If other people find out things about me, they will use them against me.
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People often say one thing and mean something else.
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A person whom I am close to could be disloyal or unfaithful.